Long Term Relationships
Long-term relationships are a different animal from their
short-term cousins. Relationships go through stages and the
first stages are very different from the later ones. In long-term
relationships, the patterns of communication are different.
The patterns are not laced with uncertainty, or so much sexuality,
or keenness of interest. Couple have “gotten used” to each other,
and their behavior reflects this change. Couples take each other
much more for granted. This does not have to be bad, but it is
different, considering the pattern of communication in the beginning
stages.
One of the most striking things to change is the emergence of
history. When we grow up, we absorb the culture of our parents
or surroundings. This becomes our “unconscious” norm. If we were
treated well in the past, we think this will continue into the
present. Conversely, if things did not go so well, our unconscious
bias is to expect similarly, even though consciously we, of course,
wish otherwise.
In the long-term relationship, this history begins to “pop up;”
that is, insert itself into our otherwise ordinary behaviors. A
real-life example is when one of the partners was
(and probably still is) the oldest of many brothers/sisters growing
up. She marries a man who is the youngest of a brood. Normally,
love conquers all, until the glow or novelty of the first stage of
the relationship wears off. Then the wife begins to behave as the
oldest, just about the time the husband begins to behave as the
youngest. One can imagine the conflicts that will follow as she
herds him or directs his behaviors or controls his impulsivity.
He, on the other hand, is used to having lots of attention from
older sibs and might even be used to being “the baby of the family.”
He acts cute and thinks others will take care of him. She resents
the assumption because this is more work for her.
This is a general example but plays out often than one might
expect because the “real” people behind the roles of wife and
husband are surfacing.
The phenomenon behind this little charade is what we
psychologists call acting out of the transference. Transference
is the group of assumptions we all carry at unconscious levels that
guide our impulses and influence our choices. They’re the attitudes
and biases I mentioned above that come from childhood. In
relationships, especially long-term ones, these transference biases
become increasingly visible in the patterns of behavior we manifest
to our partners. As the relationship matures the core values of
the individual become visible. The assumptions are acted out onto
our partner almost automatically (certainly unconsciously at first),
until there build some routines.
In the above example, if the wife is used to bossing around or
even just being in charge of younger siblings, she may take a
critical or even judgmental tone. She may use phrases that convey
authority or superiority, such as “you should” do this or that, or
“you should not” do this or that. This will put the listener
(the husband) in the position of being scolded; thus, he will feel
more like a child. If he happens to be the youngest kid in the
family, this will feel comfortable, even if he is criticized.
But sooner or later, the adult part of his brain will resent being
treated like a child and tensions will build.
Now we have a problem that feeds itself. She will criticize,
he will resent it and probably sabotage her efforts. The more she
criticizes, the more he will undo her efforts, consciously or
otherwise. This will escalate until one of them “blows.”
I call this a Negative Loop. That’s where each partner does
what irritates the other, who in turn does the very thing in
response that caused the first partner to do what he or she did.
This is a very general outline of thousands of possible transference
patterns and only one of eight major Negative Loops that I run into
every day in my practice as an outpatient psychologist and marriage
therapist.
-Dr. Griggs

“Breast milk is still best for under two years,” the pediatrician says. And a mother must believe it as not only is it advisable for her child’s health, it also lessens the chance of her getting diabetes.

Women who have less chances of suffering from diabetes. A study conducted by the World Health Organization shows that more than 1.5 million babies die because they are not breast-fed. These are babies from third world countries. Their mothers’ health are also in jeopardy that they don’t have enough nutrition or milk in their bodies to save neither themselves nor their babies.

These social workers who train mothers often travel to the developing countries such as Nigeria and teach them the proper way to care for themselves and their babies. Good parenting at a young age would also result to the proper mental development of their baby.

That’s why people must be educated when it comes to how significant breastfeeding is for the infant and the mother. Not only is this good for the baby’s health, it will also have a good effect on the emotional aspect of the mother-child relationship. Breastfeeding is an early form of mother-child bonding that could occur at this young stage of the baby’s life.

Some mothers prefer pumping their milk to a tool because it hurts them when the child bites into their nipples. That must not be the case. It takes some getting use to. Breastfeeding will give the child the nurture, the love and the care that she deserves to have. Activists on the situation are suggesting a movement to a decree that announces neglect on mothers who stop breastfeeding their children who are less than two years old.

There are some mothers who rush on to their routine activities that they prefer the bottle-feeding than breast-feeding. This often applies to a high-powered career woman. As much as possible, she must also fit into her schedule the time for her baby.

Some mothers believe that the good thing about bottled milk is that it has water and breast milk has less. However, breast milk also has water. The water contained in breast milk is in fact healthier for the infant than water that us adults drink. Notice also that babies sleep better after they are breast-fed than after they are bottle-fed.

Breast milk prevents diarrhea. Diarrhea is a ailment that often attacks babies. Developing countries lose a lot of their newly-borns to this illness.

Breast milk also helps the child grow properly making him less prone to infections. The child will also be more brainy because his being breast-fed allowed his brain to develop better.

As for the women, there is a link to diabetes mellitus and breast-feedings. Women who engage in breast-feeding their child will not have diabetes. While they’re feeding their babies, they are lactating. Therefore, the hormones they release in this process protects her against aneamia and cancer.

In short, breast-feed your baby. Not only will you and your child be good in health, you will also have bonding time together. It helps to start educating your child now at a young age because there’s a lot of room for improvement and development. Also, the mother has something to benefit from this process. She wouldn’t have diabetes.

If scheduling is the problem, it’s all about time determination. When your child is about to go to college and off to an Ivy League school, you know your hard work paid off.

Diabetes is a very serious disease. Left unchecked, it can bring serious consequences including death. Fortunately, it is a disease that can be managed. Unfortunately most of the people who have diabetes do not know that they have it and hence do not treat it till it become very late. If you suspect you have diabetes, it is very important that you get prompt professional attention and to determine whether you suffer from this.

Diabetes mellitus arises when insufficient insulin is produced, or when the available insulin does not function correctly. Without insulin, the amount of glucose in the bloodstream is abnormally high, causing unquenchable thirst and frequent urination. The body’s inability to store or use glucose causes hunger and weight loss.

The tissues and cells that make up the human body are living things, and require food to stay alive. The food cells eat is a type of sugar called glucose. Fixed in place as they are, the body’s cells are completely dependent on the blood stream in which they are bathed to bring glucose to them. Without access to adequate glucose, the body’s cells have nothing to fuel themselves with (a process known as metabolism) and soon die.

Diabetes occurs because some people do not make, or cannot respond to, their natural hormone insulin. Hormones help us control the way our bodies work. Insulin’s specific job is to regulate the body’s use of glucose, our main fuel source. We get glucose, a form of sugar, from the food we eat. It is also made by the liver

What Causes Diabetes

Diabetes (actual name is diabetes mellitus) of any kind is a disorder that prevents the body from using food properly. Normally, the body gets its major source of energy from glucose, a simple sugar that comes from foods high in simple carbohydrates (e.g., table sugar or other sweeteners such as honey, molasses, jams, and jellies, soft drinks, and cookies), or from the breakdown of complex carbohydrates such as starches (e.g., bread, potatoes, and pasta).

The harm caused by diabetes can best be reduced by preventing the onset of Type 2 diabetes. Prevention through the modification of risk factors – particularly through lifestyle changes – is a goal of the National Diabetes Strategy (CDHA, 1999), which was endorsed in 1999 by all State and Commonwealth health ministers. This aim has also been emphasized in the National Service Improvement Framework for Diabetes (NHPAC, 2006a).

Risk Factors for Diabetes Age: All people are vulnerable to the disease throughout their lives. However, the risk is higher as you grow older. There is a gradual increase in susceptibility, with slight peaks at puberty and during pregnancy, until we reach the age of 40. Then there is a rapid jump.

There are several different types of diabetes. Gestational diabetes begins during pregnancy and disappears following delivery. Another type is referred to as juvenile onset diabetes (in children) or Type I (in young adults). These individuals usually develop their disease before age 20. People with Type I diabetes must take insulin by injection every day. Approximately 10 percent of all people with diabetes have Type I (also called insulin dependent diabetes).

Type 2 Diabetes In this type, your pancreas makes some insulin, but not enough. Your cells also can become resistant to insulin’s effects, keeping insulin from escorting enough glucose into your body’s cells. Type 2 diabetes generally develops after age 40.

DIABETES:
INTRODUCTION:
Diabetes is a disease that affects your body’s ability to produce or use insulin. Insulin is a hormone. When your body turns the food you eat into energy (also called sugar or glucose), insulin is released to help transport this energy to the cells. Insulin acts as a “key.” Its chemical message tells the cell to open and receive glucose. If you produce little or no insulin, or are insulin resistant, too much sugar remains in your blood. Blood glucose levels are higher than normal for individuals with diabetes. There are two main types of diabetes: Type 1 and Type 2.
DEFINITION:
Diabetes is a disease that causes an abnormally high level of sugar, or glucose, to build up in the blood. Type 1 diabetes – previously labeled insulin-dependent, or juvenile, diabetes- is caused by the destruction of cells in the pancreas (an organ located just behind the stomach) that produce the hormone insulin.
SYMPTOMS OF DIABETES:
* Extreme thirst
* Frequent urination
* Blurry vision
* Extreme hunger
* Increased tiredness
* Unusual weight loss
CAUSES OF BIABETES:
Although the causes of diabetes are still not completely known, two main types can be differentiated:
Type 1 diabetes:
The pancreas cannot produce sufficient amounts of insulin because the insulin-producing beta cells are destroyed by the body’s immune system. All people with type 1 diabetes must take insulin, either by injection or an insulin pump.
Type 2 diabetes:
Type 2 diabetes is much more common than Type 1. In this form, the pancreas either does not produce enough insulin or the body does not make proper use of it, resulting in “insulin resistance”. Type 2 diabetes in the beginning can sometimes be managed with exercise and a healthy diet; however, individuals may also need to take additional diabetes pills and/or insulin.
TREATMENT OF DIABETES:
Type 1 (Insulin-Dependent Diabetes Mellitus):
Type 1 diabetes is treated with intensive insulin therapy. This type of treatment is designed to achieve near-normal blood sugars safely – while keeping the episodes of low blood sugars (”insulin reactions”) to a minimum. Insulin therapy includes:
* Multiple Daily Injections of Insulin (Flexibility is important!).
* Use of Insulin Pens or Pumps.
* Use of new type of insulin: Lispro or Humalog (extremely fast-acting) – replaces regular insulin.
Type 2 (Non-Insulin-Dependent Diabetes Mellitus):
The treatment used in treating type 2 diabetes will be based on the physiological defects experienced by the patient. The three most common problem areas are: the pancreas, the liver and the muscle.
* Pancreas: Abnormal response to meals.
* Liver: Abnormal sugar production.
* Muscle: Abnormal lack of sensitivity to insulin.
HOME REMEDIES FOR DIABETES:
Diabetes is one of the most common disorders in which either the pancreas produces insufficient amounts of the hormone insulin or the body cells become resident to the hormone’s effects.
1. Eat green vegetables, coriander, cucumber, cabbage, coconut, chenopodium album (bathu), creeper of pumpkin, cucumber, cabbage, bitter guard, carrot, tomato, lemon, radish, onion and ginger.
2. Eat fiber rich food like apple, figs, guava, lemon and orange. Grains rich in fibers are barley, oatmeal, maize, wheat flour, jowar, bajra, whole wheat, rice flakes, refined wheat flour (without husk) and puffed rice. Other sources of fiber are coriander seeds, cumin seeds, dry pepper and turmeric.
3. Soak 90-100 seeds in 250 gms of water in the evening. Mash them in morning, sieve in a cloth and drink mixture regularly. Take daily for two months to cure diabetes.
4. Take juice of bilva and parijataka leaves in equal parts for natural remedy of diabetes. Take two teaspoons of it twice a day.
5. Eat grapefruits regularly for diabetes natural remedy.
6. Boil 3-4 fresh leaves of mango tree in the morning and drink. It is also very effecting in curing diabetes.
7. Take soyabean in diet. It does not contain sugar and is a good source of energy for diabetes.
8. Do regular exercises to reduce the chances of developing coronary artery disease and also improves control over diabetes.
9. Avoid exertion and always try to stay free from tension.
10. Avoid sweets, chocolates, rice, banana, grapes, mangoes, dry fruits, oils, cakes and pastries.
11. Drink half-cup karela (bitter gourd) juice daily. It is an effective natural home remedy for diabetes.
12. Avoid drinking alcohol (including beer, gin, wines and whisky).
13. Lower your fat intake for obese diabetic patients. Do regular morning walk and exercises to reduce weight.
14. Avoid infections, burns and injuries as they develop ketosis in such stressful conditions.
HERBS FOR DIABETES:
Since antiquity, diabetes has been treated with plant medicines. Recent scientific investigation has confirmed the efficacy of many of these preparations, some of which are remarkably effective. Only those herbs that appear most effective, are relatively non-toxic and have substantial documentation of efficacy are covered here.
Pterocarpus marsupium (Indian Kino, Malabar Kino, Pitasara, Venga):
This herb has a long history of use in India as a treatment for diabetes. The flavonoid, (-)-epicatechin, extracted from the bark of this plant has been shown to prevent alloxan-induced beta cell damage in rats.
Both epicatechin and a crude alcohol extract of Pterocarpus marsupium have actually been shown to regenerate functional pancreatic beta cells. No other drug or natural agent has been shown to generate this activity.
Bitter Melon (Momordica charantia):
Bitter melon, also known as balsam pear, and has been used extensively in folk medicine as a remedy for diabetes. The blood sugar lowering action of the fresh juice or extract of the unripe fruit has been clearly established in both experimental and clinical studies.
Bitter melon is composed of several compounds with confirmed anti-diabetic properties. Charantin, extracted by alcohol, is a hypoglycemic agent composed of mixed steroids that is more potent than the drug tolbutamide which is often used in the treatment of diabetes. Momordica also contains an insulin-like polypeptide, polypeptide-P, which lowers blood sugar levels when injected subcutaneously into type 1 diabetic patient. The oral administration of 50-60 ml of the juice has shown good results in clinical trials.
Gymnema Sylvestre (Gurmar, Meshasringi, Cherukurinja):
Gymnema assists the pancreas in the production of insulin in Type 2 diabetes. Gymnema also improves the ability of insulin to lower blood sugar in both Type 1 and Type 2 diabetes. It decreases cravings for sweet. This herb can be an excellent substitute for oral blood sugar-lowering drugs in Type 2 diabetes. Some people take 500 mg per day of gymnema extract.
Onion and Garlic (Allium cepa and Allium sativum):
Onion and garlic have significant blood sugar lowering action. The principal active ingredients are believed to be allyl propyl disulphide (APDS) and diallyl disulphide oxide (allicin), although other constitutents such as flavonoids may play a role as well.
Onion extract was found to reduce blood sugar levels during oral and intravenous glucose tolerance. The effect improved as the dosage was increased; however, beneficial effects were observed even for low levels that used in the diet (eg. 25 to 200 grams). The effects were similar in both raw and boiled onion extracts. Onions affect the hepatic metabolism of glucose and/or increase the release of insulin, and/or prevent insulin’s destruction.
Fenugreek (Trigonella foenum-graecum):
Experimental and clinical studies have demonstrated the antidiabetic properties of fenugreek seeds. The active ingredient responsible for the antidiabetic properties of fenugreek is in the defatted portion of the seed that contains the alkaloid trogonelline, nicotinic acid and coumarin.
Blueberry leaves (Vaccinium myrtillus):
A decoction of the leaves of the blueberry has a long history of folk use in the treatment of diabetes. The compound myrtillin (an anthocyanoside) is apparently the most active ingredient. Upon injection it is somewhat weaker than insulin, but is less toxic, even at 50 times the 1 g per day therapeutic dose. A single dose can produce beneficial effects lasting several weeks.
Asian Ginseng:
Asian ginseng is commonly used in traditional Chinese medicine to treat diabetes. It has been shown to enhance the release of insulin from the pancreas and to increase the number of insulin receptors. It also has a direct blood sugar-lowering effect.
A recent study found that 200 mg of ginseng extract per day improved blood sugar control as well as energy levels in Type 2 diabetes (NIDDM).
Bilberry:
Bilberry may lower the risk of some diabetic complications, such as diabetic cataracts and retinopathy.
Stevia:
Stevia has been used traditionally to treat diabetes. Early reports suggested that stevia might have beneficial effects on glucose tolerance (and therefore potentially help with diabetes), although not all reports have confirmed this. Even if stevia did not have direct antidiabetic effects, its use as a sweetener could reduce intake of sugars in such patients.
Ginkgo Biloba:
Ginkgo biloba extract may prove useful for prevention and treatment of early-stage diabetic neuropathy.
Cinnamon:
This herb has been used traditionally to treat diabetes. Triples insulin’s efficiency

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November 14 is celebrated each year as Children’s Day and World Diabetes Day. This year the theme is “Diabetes in children and youth”. Let me take this opportunity to write about diabetes in children.
Diabetes is one of the most common diseases that affect children. It can strike children of any age, even toddlers and babies. If not detected during early childhood, the disease can have deadly consequences or result in serious damage to the brain. Diabetic child is often completely overlooked. This is the time miss-diagnosed as flu or doctors fail to diagnose it at all. Every parent, teacher, doctor involved in child care should be familiar with the warning signs and be alert to the threat.
The warning signs are Frequent urination, Excessive thirst, Increased hunger, Weight, Fatigue, Lack of interest and concentration, Blurred vision, Vomiting and abdominal pain (often mistaken as the flu).
In children with type 2 diabetes, the symptoms may be moderate or not. Type 1 and type 2 diabetes: Diabetes occurs as a result of problems in production and supply of the hormone insulin in the body. The body needs insulin to use energy that is stored in food. When a person has diabetes their body cannot create insulin (Type 1diabetes) or their bodies cannot use the insulin made effectively (type 2diabetes).
Type 1 diabetes is most common type of diabetes in children. However, as a result of increasing childhood obesity and always lifestyles, type 2 diabetes is also increasing rapidly in children and youth. In some countries type 2diabetes has become the most common type of disease in children.
Type 2 diabetes in children is probably under-diagnosed because it may have no symptoms. To prevent Type 2 diabetes in children, emphasis should be laid on physical activity, less frequent activities such as television and views of a healthy diet. If diabetes is diagnosed, paying close attention to all cardiovascular risk factors, as well as prevention is important. We need to fit in the modern industrial city on a healthy way. Diabetes is a serious health problem and expensive and there is much that can do to reduce its impact. The earliest description of diabetes from the Philippines to 2,500 years ago and the role of obesity, frequent behaviour and dietary factors are known in ancient times. What is needed now is concerted public health action against the risk factors for diabetes.
We can do our bit to prevent diabetes and other diseases. Food for children with diabetes is a minor consideration. A dietician will be able to tell you more but it is certain essential that your child has a healthy, balanced diet, high in complex carbohydrates and fibre. It is necessary to be careful Sweets but it need not be 100 per cent from the menu. Some of the foods planning of goals for children with diabetes are the same as for other children. They must eat food that will help them have good general health, normal growth and a healthy weight. But children with diabetes also have to balance their carbohydrate intake with their insulin and activity levels to maintain their levels of blood sugar under control. In addition, children with diabetes should also eat foods that help maintain the level of lipids or fats in the blood (such as Cholesterol and triglycerides) in a healthy range. Food this way may help prevent some of the long-term health problem that can cause diabetes. These days, with huge amounts of food choices, we need to teach them to read the labels of food, especially the carbohydrate content. They must understand the serving size and how to change one food for another.
Children with diabetes face the same challenges of food everyone – largely sticking to healthy eating habits over time. It can be difficult with so many temptations, so it is important to prepare food that your child enjoys. The food may make you plan vary depending on your child’s diabetes, but to help your child Dietician, you can tailor meals to planning your child’s food preferences and eating habits.